Imagine if you could do anything in the world without feeling fear or any negative feelings.
Fear of failure is instilled in us from early childhood. We’re told not to do that, avoid this, or else.
After a while you become cautious. Instead of taking action, you seek permission and confirmation.
As we grow, this belief tends to become unconscious and automatic. You aren’t aware of its presence, yet it controls you from the shadows, like an invisible puppet master.
Every entrepreneur we know is afraid of failure. It’s human nature. When we go outside of our comfort zone, we feel scared. As entrepreneurs, our ego and identity become so wrapped up in what we are doing, that when things do not go as we expect, we can literally feel like we are going to die.
What does failure do to us? We fall into a vicious downward spiral. Failure is a lot like a shot from a double barrel gun but with a difference. The first shot is like the news which explodes in one’s face. But it is the second, after a short time lag, which causes the most damage. It comprises of pain, humiliation, shame, frustration and anger. The first shot pales in comparison. It is life after the blast that causes the most hurt.
Successful people seem fearless and extraordinary, but that’s just how they’re perceived. Successful people started out very ordinary and through a combination of practice, hard work, effort, and action achieve their success. That myth of fearlessness, however, can act as a barrier to many, causing us to believe that being successful is predicated on being fearless and inherently extraordinary. But being brave isn’t living without fear; it’s living with fear, confronting it, and taking action in spite of it. It’s challenging yourself and putting yourself in places where you encounter fear and facing that fear. Fear is a very normal and inevitable part of being human; it’s one of the characteristic that define us. It’s a part of all of us. No one is truly fearless; they’ve just learned to embrace fear.